Having a busy schedule can be great, keeping occupied, ticking off goals and genuinely feeling fulfilled, yet often the reality isn’t quite as picture-perfect as desired. Many of us seem to not have a minute to ourselves, as one of the nasty surprises of adulthood, independence comes at a price.
Remember watching sitcoms as a young teenager, feeling excited, even envious of these characters with their own jobs, apartments, partners - oh how we were wrong. In three words, adulting is hard. Well much harder than it can be made to look. Behind growing up is always the silent pressure for success, this can come in all different shapes and sizes but perpetually we go by society’s measurements of success. Work hard, play hard, parent hard, exercise hard, clean hard and so on BUT remember to do all this without breaking a sweat, complaining or having a complete breakdown, OK?
It is inevitable no matter your workload or capabilities to get completely overwhelmed. I genuinely believe society forgets we aren’t octopi, and no we don’t have eight limbs to juggle the spinning world of chaos surrounding us, the hustle is real.
After recognising that we are all superwomen in disguise, it is important to figure out how to navigate the everyday madness without burning ourselves out. Starting with some serious self-love, begin by appreciating the zillion things you do per day without even noticing, be your own greatest support. From small to big, even if it was simply getting out of bed today, your challenges are your own and no less important than others.
Secondly, step out of the pressure cooker that is your mind, nothing can be done if you are thinking about how to do everything. Dividing up your responsibilities one by one will always create a better result because, as we have established, we also don’t have eight separate brains. Disciplining yourself to focus on the task at hand each time is a game-changer in digesting stress.
Thirdly, amongst the hustle and bustle of this balancing act, we call life. It is natural to feel isolated, but let’s not forget the other 3,894,099,923 females currently residing in this world also tackling what seems like a never-ending list of chores. A little bit of XX chromosome camaraderie is just what we need. We are constantly fighting battles that no, unfortunately, our XY buddies often don’t have to face or could ever truly comprehend, however, think of all the things we DO have.
There is nothing quite like female friendship, the intimacy of sisterhood is pure - we need to inject that into our daily lives, how we treat others or how we perceive our own circumstances. We got this!
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